I published an article today on YourTango.com, It Took Me A Decade To Realize The Actual Point Of My Marriage.
"Nearly ten years ago, my husband and I took our wedding vows in a beautifully decorated church in the humid summer heat. Nervous and fidgety, he slipped the ring on the wrong finger. Our priest tried to gently redirect him to switch fingers and save face before anyone noticed. Covering up the mistake never even occurred to him; instead, he blurted out to our guests, "It's on the wrong finger, guys. I'll fix it it!" We laughed. We breathed. And it's so important to laugh and breathe.
At the time, we were still coming up for air, learning how to make mistakes. Most of our friends were single and navigating urban dating and nascent careers..."